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ABC’S OF PARENTING SERIES
The sixth part of our ABC’s of Parenting Series is The letter F.
The letter “F” has a full range of words that relate to Parenting! Below is a small list that we think are important while dealing with our kids. We have included our thoughts, tips and tricks related to the letter F.
Today’s parents almost seem to be ruled by fear. We seem to second guess ourselves and our children at every turn. Things like your baby hitting milestones differently than another child or fear of disease or fear of abduction. The fears are seriously endless. It is important to think about the what if’s and your own responses as well as to have safeguards in place to protect your child. But, I caution to not get too consumed in your fears as they can become debilitating.
On another note, fear is common in childhood. When trying new things or when asked to attend new schools or activities, your child might have fears that you will help them overcome in order to enjoy the newness. Being patient and understanding of your child’s fears can help get them to move forward much faster than if you are to push them without any sympathy.
Putting your child first really means that you need to think about the best interest of the child not the best interest of yourself. What children need depends on their ages and what they are used to in their lives. When you put your child first they learn to trust you and also to trust that they will be safe and secure in this world. On the other hand, if you are constantly putting your own needs first, your child will withdraw from you and learn to do things on your own. In the long run, they will not come to you when their problems get bigger and when they are faced with serious issues.
Sometimes kids need you to break the normal routine and need to see that you can be flexible to accommodate different family situations and needs. You may have the best intentions on sleep schedules and other routines, but sometimes your children will need to break from those. When they are sick, for instance, the routine may need to break. They may need more snuggles from you and not be comfortable in their own bed.
Everything about a child is fragile. Their bodies, their emotions and their spirits. Take care in dealing with your children to understand that they may need extra attention at times in order to strengthen them. It is not always easy to remember, but they are little only once and you may need to tone things back a notch when dealing with them. If they are not meeting your expectations, you may need to slow things down so you can teach them from a place of love and understanding.
Freedom allows children to express their creative thoughts. This can lead to more productivity in the long run. When you limit your unnecessary restrictions, you allow your kids to speak, give them the power to act and teach them to seek after happiness.
Of course, you don’t want to give a child free reign to do as they place, that would create serious chaos. But, you do need to give them the opportunity to learn how to make decisions on their own and to make mistakes. Let them have small amounts of control now, so as they grow older they are well adjusted and confident in themselves.
Forgiveness has nothing to do with being right, it is about preserving the relationship and making sure things are good. Most people see their side of a situation or issue but struggle to see things from another viewpoint. It is important to teach children that their side is only one part of the situation. When you look at the whole story, it is much easier to forgive and move on in life and in the relationship.
Although you are your child’s parent and not their friend, you are ultimately their first friend. They learn from their relationship with you and the rest of their family how to act as a good friend. They learn how to behave, how to share, how to show empathy and how to be reliable.Lead by example and teach your child what a good friend looks like.
Sometimes it is best to be just plain silly with your kids. Making them laugh is the very best feeling in the world, in my opinion. Giving them a chance to be silly with their facial expressions or their mannerism. Find your inner child and laugh with them as often as you can. Raising a happy kid feels so good. As your child develops their sense of humor, remember it is okay to find and work on yours as well.
I think most parents can agree, they want to pave a path for their child to have a bright, successful and rewarding future. As a parent, you can help set them on the right track in many ways. Teach them to have a healthy lifestyle and make good choices around food and exercise. Let your kids play and have free time, and join them in those times as often as you can. Allow your kid to make mistakes, they will learn many life skills from them. Teach your children how to budget and save money so as they grow older they understand the importance from a young age.
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What is your favorite parenting word that starts with the letter F? Feel free to share in the comments!
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